The Practical Side: How to Disinherit Correctly
If you decide that you do not want to leave your estranged children anything, it is critically important to make that decision explicit and legally clear in your estate documents — not simply to omit them from your will or trust without explanation. This distinction matters more than most people realize. If you fail to mention an estranged child at all in your estate plan, they may have grounds to argue in court that you simply forgot about them, or that your documents do not accurately reflect your intentions. This is called a pretermitted heir claim, and it can give a motivated estranged child a foothold to contest your estate, potentially causing expensive and time-consuming legal proceedings that drain the estate’s assets and delay distributions to the people you actually intended to benefit.
The cleaner legal approach is to specifically name your estranged children in your will or trust and explicitly state that you are choosing not to leave them anything. This demonstrates that the omission was deliberate and informed, not accidental. You do not need to explain your reasons within the document itself — in fact, most estate planning attorneys advise against doing so, because stated reasons can become grounds for challenge if the child can argue that the reasons are factually inaccurate or legally insufficient. The document should make clear that you are aware of the child’s existence and have consciously chosen to exclude them.
